Does Absence Really Make the Heart Grow Fonder?

I read a book soon after marriage that said as husband and wife there is no such thing as spending too much time together. It actually said that if you have hobbies that do not interest your spouse, try to find another hobby that you both will enjoy. My first impression of that was that it was completely absurd and that we needed time apart in order to enjoy and appreciate time together. Nonetheless, we talked about it and figured we might as well make an effort to find new things to do that we enjoy together. We discussed the realization that I would never be playing basketball with him nor would he be playing softball with me, so we ventured on to find other sports/activities that we both enjoyed: volleyball, geocaching, devotions, board games, and even exercising together (sometimes J). I have to say, the times we have spent time together on purpose have been some of my most cherished memories. This is not to say that we never do things separately; there are the occasional times when Hubert will go out with his buddies or vice versa, but it’s not too often. Still there is never a feeling of inhibition between us; we truly enjoy spending time together.

I do have to say that it took some getting used to, at least on my side. This was not because I was always wanting to do things apart from him, but more because I enjoy my time alone, and I very early realized that when you marry someone, they are always there, haha. But I very quickly found out how fun it is to always have someone at your side-someone to laugh with, joke with, cook with, get out frustrations with, and learn how to do somersaults on a mattress with (totally happened last week).

With my measly 2.5 years of experience being married, I truly believe that it takes more effort and compromise learning to be together in all things than having time being separated. I feel if you are blessed to be able to have a similar schedule as your spouse, take advantage of it and learn how to do everything together. I mean, this is the one earthly relationship that we are meant to be together with until death. Embrace it, love it, and cherish it!

And that’s my life at current

PS Shout out to hubby-he gets his top braces off tomorrow!!!